Hyper Femme

1975153_10150365702409990_1213678530_n Bar Wotever, now in our Tenth year, giving space and place for us all to be who we are. Here is what our friend and regular Hollie posted on her facebook today,

‘The thing I love most about queer spaces is that I can express my hyper femme side without feeling like there are expectations of how I should act.

That, and urinals. I like urinals.’ Hollie Howitt

I asked Hollie to tell me a bit more what it actually means to her, that feeling she described, so she replied with  this;

1010557_10150365702389990_1450657403_nWotever World feels like going home. It is a space where you can go, and know that whatever you’re wearing, whoever you are there with, however you express yourself, you will be welcomed. Entertained. Accepted. The thing I love most about queer spaces like Bar Wotever is that I can express my hyper femme side, or my butch side, or my slutty side, without feeling like there are expectations of how I should act, or who I ‘am’. It feels as though the usual presumptions about gender, orientation and our bodies are left at the door. This type of queer community is so important. Many of my friends and lovers don’t fit the constraints of the binaries we mostly get squeezed into outside of queer space; so having things like genderless toilets is pretty handy. Plus, you know, I like urinals.’

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Bar Wotever
Royal Queer Variety Show

We work with some of the best LGBT & Queer Performers in London, UK and the World, plus encourage newcomers and beginners with great attitude and things to say. We also champion a big group of Residential Performers who are invited to our stage time after time, just because we totally adore them and their craft. Every event also host Community News for and with our London LGBT & Queer Community.
Live Music, Cabaret, Talks, Films and Spoken Word, we do it all!
This is a night for friendly and open minded people who know how to pay attention.

Bar Wotever – Queer Tuesdays at RVT

Bar Wotever is changing…

Our Weekly Queer meet up space, with show, community news and plenty of music, BAR WOTEVER is standing in front one of the BIGGEST and Scariest changes since we started this weekly event in 2005…

Tonight we celebrate our Ninth Year Birthday!

AND, we start Charging a Door Fee!

Come and celebrate with us! We invite you to a packed event, filled with SHOW with and by People we like and admire.

Yes, we need to move with the times and charge on the door for our events. Bar Wotever was proud and free for nine whole years, but after a lot of hazzle, and thinking how we could keep it going without paying Performance and Crew properly for all their hard work and professionalism, we decided we have to charge a small fee. Fair Pay for Fair Work we say! And I know we are many who understand that this was the only way forward, to survive and keep Bar Wotever running. It was the ONLY way. So, I trust you are all with us on this!

Various Tuesdays will have various door charge as we try to be as fair as possible, some Open Mic and Fundraising nights will still have a Free Entry! There will always be space to ask and collaborate with us for cheaper entry if one is without much cash – we know this way to well… So, join in, help us out with this. We never ever want Bar Wotever to be a money making mega thang, but we want to survive and thrive with more and better shows to offer our Queer & LGBT fans here in London and all over the world.

Thank YOU for understanding!

“Wotever World seems also to be a state of mind, a very friendly and welcoming state of mind indeed.” Remotegoat

“Erasing all boundaries and stereotypes from the blackboard this innovative night featured a wealth of the smartest, sexiest and most unique performers who encourage different ways of gender expressions.” QX Magazine

“Everyone on my first visit just before Christmas 2013 were so open, accepting and so, so friendly. What an amazing energy.” Bobby G

Great Readings by S. Bear Bergman at Bar Wotever

Author and activist S. Bear Bergman came and shared his wisdom and knowledge at Bar Wotever Tuesday 18 Feb 2014

From my FaceBook ramblings:

‘How great it is to sit back, knowing and trusting the person on stage will say and express motions and ideas you and your mind want to hear, understand and have experienced. Sometimes, life is tough as you have to fight, always feel ‘wrong’ having to explain to others why you look like you do, love and have sex with the people you do, then this bliss by NOT having to ‘fight’ and explain or even to feel wrong… is such a bliss. The packed room of RVT last night was breathing in synch, lapping up S. Bear Bergmans every word, every motion. It is rare we have this, but when we do – it is oh so delightful.
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We need more of our own kind of recognition, understanding and shared knowledge, and yes I know there were people who this might not have been their life/experience – but oh how lovely that at least you got to hear this too! As we all get richer the more stories and varieties we hear and share…

Widen the nets and we will have a better understanding!

Thank you all who gave support to this event! Maria, Liam, Dr J, Neil, Jo Bunny and RVT and above all S. Bear Bergman! We keep on sharing, and next Tuesday we do even MORE! X’

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Bear wore a T-shirt like this on stage… I want one!

Toilet Liberation Front

Toilets stresses me out – specially public toilets.

Opening that door to the rest room, and always having to be prepared to be questioned… ‘This is the…..’

Then the peace finding a loo like this, here in London. A mixed one, clean and tidy where no one would be questioned, as it is open for ALL. ( this was Leon at Spitalfields)

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I was so relieved (!) I snapped these pics, and remembered our T.L.F manifesto, written in 2004 (?):
Why Toilet Liberation!

We, the Toilet Liberation Front (T.L.F.) hereby pledge to challenge & deny the evil fallacy of the Binary Gender System (B.G.S.).

Dear reader,

there are people (“it could be you”!) who freeze when faced with the choice of using either a female or a male “convenience”.
When you need to relieve yourself it’s the last time you want to be philosophising about identity politics, or running from the person beating you up.
This (the T.L.F. & our activism) is for all those who have felt threatened, confused, embarrassed, afraid or just plain PISSED OFF ‘cos (the B.G.S.) “society” doesn’t recognize the real gender truth.
Not all of us can or want to assimilate seamlessly into either male or female categories; none of us should have to.

Approximately 1 in 2,000 newborn babies have ambiguous genitalia (are born intersex); the number of transsexuals, transvestites & other gender-queers is even higher. Still our society sees fit to ignore our needs when it comes to the most basic of human rights, going to the toilet.

The Toilet Liberation Front (T.L.F.) was formed on April fool’s day at the London Lesbian & Gay film festival in order to highlight & fight for the cause of a very powerful minority, powerful ‘cos they’re pissed off!

(This leaflet is supported by the Society Against The Unnecessary Use Of Pointless Anachronism (S.A.T.U.U.O.P.A.)).

From Bar-B-Lo to the British Museum

No-photography-sign[1]One of the most important things for us at the start of Club Wotever was, ‘If we do Not document our own lives, who will?’ Creating a Queer space, open for all genders and sexualities, not labelling only as LGBT, but also Queer in the widest meaning. We were ALL used to signs ‘No Photography’ in Gay clubs, Lesbian bars and various places where unwanted snaps could mean you got ‘outed’ and maybe ‘shamed’….

At the start of Club Wotever we made sure to snap photos, share online at our website – showcasing our faces and happiness, being Proud of who we were, and not shamed into unseen spaces. We encouraged people to dress up (each night had a theme) and we took pictures of various costumes and looks, people played up to the camera and suddenly, WE owned OUR OWN LOOK & REPRESENTATION, how we wanted to be seen was out there. We also shoot videos at our performances, and very early on (second event ever!) a young PhD student, asked – ‘Would you be ok if I do my PhD on you? I am Visual Anthropology student interested in gender’

Club WoteverShe had to work hard to ‘prove’ herself as being part of Wotever mentality and thinking,  as to do her PhD and follow us she had to be us, not them.  We said yes and She started filming, capturing and concentrating the film to follow five of us who did stuff at CW back then, Performers Trevor 4 Ever, Lazo Pearlman, Dyke Marilyn and Josephine Wilson, and me, Ingo,  the producer of it all…

This film and PhD became Mirror Mirror, a film less than an hour long. It has been shown around the world, in various set ups and spaces. It have lead people to come along to our events, and follow the performers career…

This Sunday we are shown, at The British Museum, just a stone throw (if you are good!) from the place where it all started, Bar-B-Lo (now New Bloomsbury Set).

Me and Zem will be there, maybe a few others from the film, but most of all we hope you who are interested in queer diy history will join us. Event is Free but you need to book your ticket. Event is organised by Camden LGBT Forum as part of LGBT History Month

The British Museum

Sunday 16 February, 2.00pm–3.45pm

Mirror Mirror (2006) and Q&A.  Supported by the Royal Anthropological Institute

Mirror Mirror is based on an audio-visual ethnography of London’s queer Club Wotever. Begun in the autumn of 2003, it promoted itself as a club that welcomed all genders and sexualities—a counterpoise to London’s mainstream segregated scenes. Director Zemirah Moffat and Ingo is in attendance for Questions & Answers from 3.00pm.

UK, 2006, 58 minutes. Book Free Ticket  HERE

 

For all of you who can not make the event. See Film and Read Zem’s Phd HERE

and / or see many of our photos and Films via our Youtube Channel HERE  it has over 200 films and it had over 250 000 views by now. So, our faces and what we do is out there in the world and open for all to see.

Royal Variety Show

IMG_5419-meFor me there’s never any doubt, Tuesdays have a special flavour, a glow of expectation and excitement. Over the years we have done Bar Wotever – week after week, each night unique and never repeated. High energy, low energy, giggles, tears and meetings. There have been high octane headbanging to Rage Against the Machine after protests and amazement after shared stories. Plenty of dancing and many quiet talks in the corner.
Bar Wotever have been my Saturday Night for a long time and tonight, this Tuesday I want to celebrate it all with you. Everyone attending leave a mark and are special, no matter why turning up… for some this is just a pub with open doors for others it is like church, a must-do in an otherwise hectic and chaotic world and week. For some it is comfy as coming home, getting your feet up and relax as if in your own living room, and instead of turning the TV on, you get a Royal Variety Show. Every Tuesday. Enjoy!

Doors 7pm,

P1150554-meThe Royal Variety Show start 8.30, Tonights Programme (11th February 2014) is an in depth study in Dance, Same Sex Ballroom dancing, and the experts Rachel and Darya will share their knowledge and passion. The Info Channel Join in with Community News, a 3D Live Interactive Noticeboard for and with our LGBT and Queer Community. Tonights Entertainment brought by the Charming Drag King Adam All, an artist we have been lucky to have worked with over many years , and now seen blossom in to an even more versatile King and Entertainer. Music Producer for tonights broadcast is the charming pop connoisseur DJ Malteazer who will play only Happy Music he like.
No Drama No Fuss. This is made by Us! On a Tuesday!

Bar Wotever, Queer Tuesdays at Royal Vauxhall Tavern

Ingo x

Deviant

We have a Hot New Date!
Deviant Sat 25 january!

Some of you will be aware that we have have found a new venue in London to explore and run events in. It is a lovely, new, small dungeon and playspace, which offers privacy and a great space with plenty of equipment, and which we are able to get exclusive use of on a Saturday night so……

We’d like to invite you to our new, hopefully regular, night Deviant, which is an intimate, play-oriented event. This means that it is quite different to Sweat in that there are no private booths or spaces and it is an event predominantly aimed at those who want a safe, fun and well-equipped BDSM-oriented space.

Date: Saturday 25th January

Time: 8pm – midnight

Door policy: this event is for women (cis or trans) and transmasculine people only.

Cost: £15

Get your ticket NOW, via sweatlondon@gmail.com (If you already are on our email list, check your inbox. If you want to join – please email and apply)

Venue is very central and only 3 minutes walk from a Tube stop in Zone 1!

Looking forward to see you deviant people there!

Winter Sweat

Winter seems to have arrived so let’s all warm up with a lovely night at Sweat……

SWEAT_TG02Thursday 12th December 2013, 8pm-midnight* in our usual lovely venue.
The venue is secret if you have never been but is in south/central London, details when you book.

Please note: this is a sex and BDSM play space and the event is only for women, trans people and genderqueers (whether assigned male or female at birth). It is based on respect and fabulous fantasies….

Tickets cost from £12.50 to £22.50, with a very limited number of the cheaper tickets available only for early bird bookings. To get a ticket, write sweatlondon [@] gmail [.] com.
This is also the way to join our email list if you are interested, please note you need to answer some questions first bfor you get all the info. No drama, just socializing a bit..

What people said about SWEAT:

‘Had a wonderful night last night at my first SWEAT, many thanks to the team for a great event.’

‘Thanks to everyone I met last night and to the organisers — what a brilliant event.’

‘My girlfriend and I had a great time at Sweat. There was so much to enjoy. Thanks to everyone who made it happen.’ 

‘Yes – another great night, they get better and better! ;)’

‘Sweat keeps on getting better and better. It’s the most consistent great night out!’

‘Really nice to see lots of new faces as well as Sweat regulars.’

We have a group on FetLife.com, called Sweat London, if you want t interact beforehand with us.

Last Night it was Sunny!

What a privilege!

How amazing was last night? How much did we learn, feel, laugh & cry?
Sunny Drakes show was a pleasure to behold, a sparkly moment in a life, city & time that is tough, hard and sometimes unforgiving… But, here for a brief moment we had things explained to us….
LOVE
Communication
&
Honesty IS the answer…

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and getting out, sharing it with a room filled of strangers, friends and fellow quirky queer, gender & poly mashed up bodies. That was Awesome!

Thank You all who came and paid, understanding these things cost, and our stories might not be free all the time. Thank You all who Took Part. and Mega Thank YOU to Sunny Drake for your moving performance and Multi Media show. And a mega mega THANK YOU to the tech team, who worked the whole day to set up, sort out and then with a mega hour of concentration produced a seamless flowing show! Thank YOU Jo & Liam! You did brilliant last night!
IMG_7634-th IMG_7673-thAlso mega thank you to our Fab Ragina Lumpitwat for such powerful dancing, Flying in green light at a spooky and Halloween filled RVT. Brilliant!

Thank You to Maria who lead and encouraged the community news plus was the sunshine at the door, and thank you to Miss Cairo Mascara for your thank you to us. Bar Wotever and Wotever World. We are touched and moved that you enjoy what we do and create, so your thanks goes a long way sweetie.

IMG_7517-thAnd thank you AbsolutQueer Photography for a mega quick turn around of fab pics from last night.
And my last thank you is to all of you who came up and shared your music last night. The dancefloor rocked with a mega creative mix, made by all of you! So, Thank You!

Ingo x

Sunny Drake at Bar Wotever

Critically acclaimed Australian theatre maker, performer & educator- Sunny Drake at Bar Wotever with a full length show of ‘Transgender seeking…..’
Sunny Drake photo by Tania Anderson (735) Big File

This is what he say about his show…

‘I’m a romance-a-holic. I am quitting though – cold turkey. That’s why I’ve come to this meeting, for support”. An exposing, absurd, funny and tender look at queer relationships including run-ins with the polyamory police, online dating mishaps, not quite living up to our ideals and how relationship scripts and bigger political systems like policing and prisons affect our relationships. ‘

“Beautiful, articulate, well considered and very sophisticated…Complex and difficult subjects are delivered in the most accessible and authentic way. It’s light hearted, fresh and wank free…. Sunny Drake is a progressive queer visionary.” (Samesame.com, Melbourne, Australia)

Bar Wotever, where Queer Arts & Culture meet
This evening 29 October: Doors 7pm, Show start 8pm sharp!

+ we charge on the door to help covering Sunny’s travel costs, It’s only £5 / £3 conc, and no one turned away due to lack of funds. As we are so many looking forward to see Sunny’s Show, you can now book your seat! Get tickets in advance HERE!

So, doorcharge between 7pm-9.30 for all who are coming to see Sunny Drakes show

Free entry from 9.30pm til Midnigh

Meth AnyAn evening that already looked good, now looks even better!! Our absolute Favve Drag queen Meth Any (formerly Mr Mistress) will turn up around 10pm.

“Meth is taking the UK Drag scene by its jugular in a relentless display of weird and wonderful, lip-syncing extravaganza!
She is rapidly gaining notoriety as the freakiest drag queen this side of Sharon Needles and is showing no signs of slowing down.
Join Meth this Halloween as she shares her love of All Hallows Eve and every tacky, spooktastic cliché in the Book of Shadows (available now at all good fancy dress retailers)
Risk a trick, indulge in a lot of treats and revel in the spine tingling, bone chilling, blood curdling antics of Londons top, Gothic ghoulfriend.
It’s gunna be a scream!”

Royal Vauxhall Tavern, 372 Kennington Lane, SE11 5HY London

Tuesday 29 october

Doors 7-Midnight
8pm: ‘Transgender seeking…’ start 8pm prompt!
10pm: Meth Any
DJ: Bumlord

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