Hug Club

‘Can it be that after 9 years of Bar Wotever we have finally cracked it? It’s Not a Queer Club. It’s not a Cabaret Club, It’s a HUG CLUB!!!!’ I wrote on the Wotever World wall Wednesday morning. The morning after the day before, the day before that was our Birthday Celebrations!

The thinking came from all the hugs and affirmation, the familiar and the unknow, each hug was spectacular on that Night. Not a bad hugger in the room….

I’m coming from a family who hug a lot,  instead of giving up the right hand to shake when meeting a stranger, pretty much ALL in my blood family stretch our arms out ready to embrace and hug, if the stranger so wish.  Many times people have been surprised by this way of greetings, but we like it. So, when doing these events like Bar Wotever on Tuesday, Hugs are never far away.Most people do like hugs, but those who don’t, that’s ok too. Respectfully and consensual hugs is the key….

So, as there was our Birthday party, there was indeed hugs a plenty last Tuesday, as so many huggable people turned up…




This Hug was shared On stage in front of everyone – It lasted a loooong Time and it was a QUALITY HUG! You know, a hug when you just love… David had just shared a lot of intimate and insightful thoughts and reflections for us all and  in the room,  packed full of queers, energy just flew back and forth ….. ‘With Hugs we can for a moment feel a bit better, the touch and honest embrace that makes us for one moment do that kinda thing, the hard thing we most of the time are so afraid of as we running around this life to stay strong, show a sorted exterior and at least make people believe we know what we do and talk about… 

Then, a hug, and sharing heartbeats, breathing and for a moment not feel alone. The release and the comfort of a genuine hug – Priceless. 
This Hug in the pic happened on stage last night. It was Lovely, it was a great hug between two people who for a moment was THERE and THEN. 
Bar Wotever turned Nine, and we talked, laughed and hugged. 
Thank You!’
Pic by Miss Cairo Mascara
Huggers: David Hoyle & Ingo

1908228_10152052616673505_13008296_nMichael Twaits hosted and was utterly charming and professional, with no less than FIVE! sparkly dresses to show us! Plus he did the piece Stonewall upon my request – it always gives me goosebumps and as usual it made the room erupt! Roxy Stardust travelled down from Glasgow to sing about her love for Coffee, specially the latte boy named Trevor.  David Hoyle was giving a Wotever Talk about depression, creativity and he gave us the story how Divine David came about. It was brave, naked and so wonderful. Standing ovations and the roof raised for the Legend and a Queer Hero. There were singing from Krista Papista and our mega huggable and lovely Residential DJ Jo Bunny made us dance til closing time….

1913224_10152052613778505_1190613860_oIt was a packed RVT of Lovers, Friends and Newbies who were there, all together creating an amazing Birthday Celebration… Thank YOU! XXX

Voices & Quotes From People who were there. I wanted to collect them, as a memory and a moment in time where everything was Perfect and Amazing, something to look back to in days of doubt and worry…

‘Last night the hugs were electrifying! full of sparkle, full of love and full of joy!’

‘What a fabulous night at Bar Wotever. Thank you thank you thank you! Thank you for queer community. Thank you old friends. Thank you new ones. See y’all when I’m back from Australia x’

‘Thank you for having me, it was coming home.’

‘Thank you for yet another glorious evening of love, passion and queer spirit!’

‘Thank you for embracing me within this glorious community!’

‘Bar Wotever Rocked tonight, having their 9th B-Day with some great acts and of course the amazing David Hoyle. Happy B-Day’

‘Thank you for all your hard work too.  Was great to see so much love and support in the room.  xx’

‘Lastnight was a Fab’

‘Thank you for continuously opening my eyes and mind and helping me grow as a human being in a safe and friendly environment. Much, MUCH Love, Kxxx’ 

‘Congratulations to everyone at Bar  Wotever for creating an amazing night. What an amazing energy to take forward for the rest of the week.’

‘A fabulous night at Bar Wotever and an honour to be in such wonderful company and be part of the 9th Birthday celebrations. I love you Bar Wotever! I am also totally in love with Michael Twaits!!’

‘Dragged my sorry backside down to the RVT and was welcomed by a heap of wonderful friends and to top it all an inspiring talk from the wonderful David Hoyle! Cheers everyone, love you all x x’

‘There was so much love in the room it was bursting in the seams! Wotever is like a dose of chicken soup, a hug fest and amazing cabaret and entertainment.’

‘NINE queer years!!! Amazing!’

‘Barwotevers 9th birthday Was on fire last night soooo much family lust I am branded to my heart by all the Love shown by so many beautiful people to me.
My time there has been short a mere 7 years out of the 9 but it’s been intense thank you Barwotever for my part in the journey huge Love to everyone here’s to another 9 electric mad wonderful years!!! Xx (=^.^=)’


‘Have to Say What A Real Pleasure & Honour it was, to be Invited to be involved in Last Nite’s Bar Wotever 9th Birthday Celebrations. ALL Day I’ve been Wondering what to Say about it & Succinctly! So I’ll Say:- A Beautiful Event, attended by Truly Beautiful People & What was Created, was LOVE. Thank-You Ingo & ALL Bar Wotever Collective. To Me Last Night was A Challenge & A Break-Through!=ThanX Again, Happy Birthday & I Can’t wait For The 10th Birthday Celebrations = See You There! Lurve-David XXX. ThanX to ALL Friends & Supporters for BEING THERE! XXX’ David Hoyle

————-How some of us involved described it—————–

‘We are overwhelmed with all the Love felt in the RVT last night for our 9th Birthday!! It was a queer star studded event with beautiful creatures wall to wall and we had 4 count them 4 photographers to capture you all! DrJ Oscar Marchock Rosie and Luuuxor huge Love to a veteran of barwotever Dj Jo bunny they played foot stomping hits all night long!
The beautiful words of David Hoyle wove their way thru the club and struck us dumb with their truth and resonance Mega star Miz Kimberly came and sung us Happy birthday thank you to AJ for all the yummy cakes! 
Michael Twaits was our compere last night and dazzled us not only with a string of sparkly dresses but his performance piece stonewall as always brought the house down! 
We had Roxy Star dust all the way from Glasgow treating us to her desires for Taylor the latte boy please come back and do more! And the Dramatic vocal stylings of Krista Papista 
the raffle was a huge success with amazing prizes won and re gifted and the money raised will go to Queer African voices well done everyone who brought tickets thank you to Dru,Kerry and Neko for their charm and running around selling tickets
huge thanks as always to the fabulous crew some new some old all amazing Ingo Cando Liam Mercer Maria kinsella DrJ Neil Chakravarty Puja and Theresa
And lastly thank you to the audience last night you were smashing and electric see you all next week!! Xxx’


‘Thank you Thank You Bar Wotever last Night!
As we all know, it’s not easy to create this mix of events and people week after week in a big city like London where there is ALWAYS sooo much going on, and then there is time and money and oooh going out on a School Night, I better stay home and wash my hair….and queer, what is queer? Will I fit in, or why is there not more of * * * & *’s there…. always things to complain about and wanna have done different and time, who have time? Where is my Lust and where is the Passion? 

Tell you what. Fuck it! We Do It Anyway and we LOVE It! After all these years there is only one thing we know for sure… Make it or Break It! The best Crew in the world (♥) is passionate and loving, full of spunk and glitter! And we are you and do it with and for YOU as YOU are part of that spectacle that is Bar Wotever, our show and our music. 

First night of the rebranded and refreshed Bar Wotever was a Hit with Sparkly dresses and glorious songs, nipple tassels and heartfelt talk about depression. Vegan Fairy Cakes and Swedish Speed Raffle (chaos on legs!) + Community News and Happy Birthday songs! Bar Wotever was pretty Fab!

Thank You All who were there, who stood by us in the storms and who support and like what we do and bring, you who make this weekly Queer Night mean something! So Thank YOU! and see you all again for a different night, but the same…. next week. Special Love for Performance and Work last night, it would def not have been as amazing if it wasn’t for you; Maria KinsellaLiam MercerAlfonse DebonairJo GattenbergMichael TwaitsRoxyStardust BurlesquerDavid HoyleMzz Kimberley,Krista PapistaDru FrancalanzaPositive ChangeNeko Barrett,Oskar Marchock and Royal Vauxhall Tavern!’

Pictures by Lee Butler

Hyper Femme

1975153_10150365702409990_1213678530_n Bar Wotever, now in our Tenth year, giving space and place for us all to be who we are. Here is what our friend and regular Hollie posted on her facebook today,

‘The thing I love most about queer spaces is that I can express my hyper femme side without feeling like there are expectations of how I should act.

That, and urinals. I like urinals.’ Hollie Howitt

I asked Hollie to tell me a bit more what it actually means to her, that feeling she described, so she replied with  this;

1010557_10150365702389990_1450657403_nWotever World feels like going home. It is a space where you can go, and know that whatever you’re wearing, whoever you are there with, however you express yourself, you will be welcomed. Entertained. Accepted. The thing I love most about queer spaces like Bar Wotever is that I can express my hyper femme side, or my butch side, or my slutty side, without feeling like there are expectations of how I should act, or who I ‘am’. It feels as though the usual presumptions about gender, orientation and our bodies are left at the door. This type of queer community is so important. Many of my friends and lovers don’t fit the constraints of the binaries we mostly get squeezed into outside of queer space; so having things like genderless toilets is pretty handy. Plus, you know, I like urinals.’


Bar Wotever
Royal Queer Variety Show

We work with some of the best LGBT & Queer Performers in London, UK and the World, plus encourage newcomers and beginners with great attitude and things to say. We also champion a big group of Residential Performers who are invited to our stage time after time, just because we totally adore them and their craft. Every event also host Community News for and with our London LGBT & Queer Community.
Live Music, Cabaret, Talks, Films and Spoken Word, we do it all!
This is a night for friendly and open minded people who know how to pay attention.

Bar Wotever – Queer Tuesdays at RVT

Bar Wotever is changing…

Our Weekly Queer meet up space, with show, community news and plenty of music, BAR WOTEVER is standing in front one of the BIGGEST and Scariest changes since we started this weekly event in 2005…

Tonight we celebrate our Ninth Year Birthday!

AND, we start Charging a Door Fee!

Come and celebrate with us! We invite you to a packed event, filled with SHOW with and by People we like and admire.

Yes, we need to move with the times and charge on the door for our events. Bar Wotever was proud and free for nine whole years, but after a lot of hazzle, and thinking how we could keep it going without paying Performance and Crew properly for all their hard work and professionalism, we decided we have to charge a small fee. Fair Pay for Fair Work we say! And I know we are many who understand that this was the only way forward, to survive and keep Bar Wotever running. It was the ONLY way. So, I trust you are all with us on this!

Various Tuesdays will have various door charge as we try to be as fair as possible, some Open Mic and Fundraising nights will still have a Free Entry! There will always be space to ask and collaborate with us for cheaper entry if one is without much cash – we know this way to well… So, join in, help us out with this. We never ever want Bar Wotever to be a money making mega thang, but we want to survive and thrive with more and better shows to offer our Queer & LGBT fans here in London and all over the world.

Thank YOU for understanding!

“Wotever World seems also to be a state of mind, a very friendly and welcoming state of mind indeed.” Remotegoat

“Erasing all boundaries and stereotypes from the blackboard this innovative night featured a wealth of the smartest, sexiest and most unique performers who encourage different ways of gender expressions.” QX Magazine

“Everyone on my first visit just before Christmas 2013 were so open, accepting and so, so friendly. What an amazing energy.” Bobby G

Great Readings by S. Bear Bergman at Bar Wotever

Author and activist S. Bear Bergman came and shared his wisdom and knowledge at Bar Wotever Tuesday 18 Feb 2014

From my FaceBook ramblings:

‘How great it is to sit back, knowing and trusting the person on stage will say and express motions and ideas you and your mind want to hear, understand and have experienced. Sometimes, life is tough as you have to fight, always feel ‘wrong’ having to explain to others why you look like you do, love and have sex with the people you do, then this bliss by NOT having to ‘fight’ and explain or even to feel wrong… is such a bliss. The packed room of RVT last night was breathing in synch, lapping up S. Bear Bergmans every word, every motion. It is rare we have this, but when we do – it is oh so delightful.
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We need more of our own kind of recognition, understanding and shared knowledge, and yes I know there were people who this might not have been their life/experience – but oh how lovely that at least you got to hear this too! As we all get richer the more stories and varieties we hear and share…

Widen the nets and we will have a better understanding!

Thank you all who gave support to this event! Maria, Liam, Dr J, Neil, Jo Bunny and RVT and above all S. Bear Bergman! We keep on sharing, and next Tuesday we do even MORE! X’

Bear wore a T-shirt like this on stage… I want one!

Toilet Liberation Front

Toilets stresses me out – specially public toilets.

Opening that door to the rest room, and always having to be prepared to be questioned… ‘This is the…..’

Then the peace finding a loo like this, here in London. A mixed one, clean and tidy where no one would be questioned, as it is open for ALL. ( this was Leon at Spitalfields)

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I was so relieved (!) I snapped these pics, and remembered our T.L.F manifesto, written in 2004 (?):
Why Toilet Liberation!

We, the Toilet Liberation Front (T.L.F.) hereby pledge to challenge & deny the evil fallacy of the Binary Gender System (B.G.S.).

Dear reader,

there are people (“it could be you”!) who freeze when faced with the choice of using either a female or a male “convenience”.
When you need to relieve yourself it’s the last time you want to be philosophising about identity politics, or running from the person beating you up.
This (the T.L.F. & our activism) is for all those who have felt threatened, confused, embarrassed, afraid or just plain PISSED OFF ‘cos (the B.G.S.) “society” doesn’t recognize the real gender truth.
Not all of us can or want to assimilate seamlessly into either male or female categories; none of us should have to.

Approximately 1 in 2,000 newborn babies have ambiguous genitalia (are born intersex); the number of transsexuals, transvestites & other gender-queers is even higher. Still our society sees fit to ignore our needs when it comes to the most basic of human rights, going to the toilet.

The Toilet Liberation Front (T.L.F.) was formed on April fool’s day at the London Lesbian & Gay film festival in order to highlight & fight for the cause of a very powerful minority, powerful ‘cos they’re pissed off!

(This leaflet is supported by the Society Against The Unnecessary Use Of Pointless Anachronism (S.A.T.U.U.O.P.A.)).

From Bar-B-Lo to the British Museum

No-photography-sign[1]One of the most important things for us at the start of Club Wotever was, ‘If we do Not document our own lives, who will?’ Creating a Queer space, open for all genders and sexualities, not labelling only as LGBT, but also Queer in the widest meaning. We were ALL used to signs ‘No Photography’ in Gay clubs, Lesbian bars and various places where unwanted snaps could mean you got ‘outed’ and maybe ‘shamed’….

At the start of Club Wotever we made sure to snap photos, share online at our website – showcasing our faces and happiness, being Proud of who we were, and not shamed into unseen spaces. We encouraged people to dress up (each night had a theme) and we took pictures of various costumes and looks, people played up to the camera and suddenly, WE owned OUR OWN LOOK & REPRESENTATION, how we wanted to be seen was out there. We also shoot videos at our performances, and very early on (second event ever!) a young PhD student, asked – ‘Would you be ok if I do my PhD on you? I am Visual Anthropology student interested in gender’

Club WoteverShe had to work hard to ‘prove’ herself as being part of Wotever mentality and thinking,  as to do her PhD and follow us she had to be us, not them.  We said yes and She started filming, capturing and concentrating the film to follow five of us who did stuff at CW back then, Performers Trevor 4 Ever, Lazo Pearlman, Dyke Marilyn and Josephine Wilson, and me, Ingo,  the producer of it all…

This film and PhD became Mirror Mirror, a film less than an hour long. It has been shown around the world, in various set ups and spaces. It have lead people to come along to our events, and follow the performers career…

This Sunday we are shown, at The British Museum, just a stone throw (if you are good!) from the place where it all started, Bar-B-Lo (now New Bloomsbury Set).

Me and Zem will be there, maybe a few others from the film, but most of all we hope you who are interested in queer diy history will join us. Event is Free but you need to book your ticket. Event is organised by Camden LGBT Forum as part of LGBT History Month

The British Museum

Sunday 16 February, 2.00pm–3.45pm

Mirror Mirror (2006) and Q&A.  Supported by the Royal Anthropological Institute

Mirror Mirror is based on an audio-visual ethnography of London’s queer Club Wotever. Begun in the autumn of 2003, it promoted itself as a club that welcomed all genders and sexualities—a counterpoise to London’s mainstream segregated scenes. Director Zemirah Moffat and Ingo is in attendance for Questions & Answers from 3.00pm.

UK, 2006, 58 minutes. Book Free Ticket  HERE


For all of you who can not make the event. See Film and Read Zem’s Phd HERE

and / or see many of our photos and Films via our Youtube Channel HERE  it has over 200 films and it had over 250 000 views by now. So, our faces and what we do is out there in the world and open for all to see.

Royal Variety Show

IMG_5419-meFor me there’s never any doubt, Tuesdays have a special flavour, a glow of expectation and excitement. Over the years we have done Bar Wotever – week after week, each night unique and never repeated. High energy, low energy, giggles, tears and meetings. There have been high octane headbanging to Rage Against the Machine after protests and amazement after shared stories. Plenty of dancing and many quiet talks in the corner.
Bar Wotever have been my Saturday Night for a long time and tonight, this Tuesday I want to celebrate it all with you. Everyone attending leave a mark and are special, no matter why turning up… for some this is just a pub with open doors for others it is like church, a must-do in an otherwise hectic and chaotic world and week. For some it is comfy as coming home, getting your feet up and relax as if in your own living room, and instead of turning the TV on, you get a Royal Variety Show. Every Tuesday. Enjoy!

Doors 7pm,

P1150554-meThe Royal Variety Show start 8.30, Tonights Programme (11th February 2014) is an in depth study in Dance, Same Sex Ballroom dancing, and the experts Rachel and Darya will share their knowledge and passion. The Info Channel Join in with Community News, a 3D Live Interactive Noticeboard for and with our LGBT and Queer Community. Tonights Entertainment brought by the Charming Drag King Adam All, an artist we have been lucky to have worked with over many years , and now seen blossom in to an even more versatile King and Entertainer. Music Producer for tonights broadcast is the charming pop connoisseur DJ Malteazer who will play only Happy Music he like.
No Drama No Fuss. This is made by Us! On a Tuesday!

Bar Wotever, Queer Tuesdays at Royal Vauxhall Tavern

Ingo x


We have a Hot New Date!
Deviant Sat 25 january!

Some of you will be aware that we have have found a new venue in London to explore and run events in. It is a lovely, new, small dungeon and playspace, which offers privacy and a great space with plenty of equipment, and which we are able to get exclusive use of on a Saturday night so……

We’d like to invite you to our new, hopefully regular, night Deviant, which is an intimate, play-oriented event. This means that it is quite different to Sweat in that there are no private booths or spaces and it is an event predominantly aimed at those who want a safe, fun and well-equipped BDSM-oriented space.

Date: Saturday 25th January

Time: 8pm – midnight

Door policy: this event is for women (cis or trans) and transmasculine people only.

Cost: £15

Get your ticket NOW, via (If you already are on our email list, check your inbox. If you want to join – please email and apply)

Venue is very central and only 3 minutes walk from a Tube stop in Zone 1!

Looking forward to see you deviant people there!

Winter Sweat

Winter seems to have arrived so let’s all warm up with a lovely night at Sweat……

SWEAT_TG02Thursday 12th December 2013, 8pm-midnight* in our usual lovely venue.
The venue is secret if you have never been but is in south/central London, details when you book.

Please note: this is a sex and BDSM play space and the event is only for women, trans people and genderqueers (whether assigned male or female at birth). It is based on respect and fabulous fantasies….

Tickets cost from £12.50 to £22.50, with a very limited number of the cheaper tickets available only for early bird bookings. To get a ticket, write sweatlondon [@] gmail [.] com.
This is also the way to join our email list if you are interested, please note you need to answer some questions first bfor you get all the info. No drama, just socializing a bit..

What people said about SWEAT:

‘Had a wonderful night last night at my first SWEAT, many thanks to the team for a great event.’

‘Thanks to everyone I met last night and to the organisers — what a brilliant event.’

‘My girlfriend and I had a great time at Sweat. There was so much to enjoy. Thanks to everyone who made it happen.’ 

‘Yes – another great night, they get better and better! ;)’

‘Sweat keeps on getting better and better. It’s the most consistent great night out!’

‘Really nice to see lots of new faces as well as Sweat regulars.’

We have a group on, called Sweat London, if you want t interact beforehand with us.

Last Night it was Sunny!

What a privilege!

How amazing was last night? How much did we learn, feel, laugh & cry?
Sunny Drakes show was a pleasure to behold, a sparkly moment in a life, city & time that is tough, hard and sometimes unforgiving… But, here for a brief moment we had things explained to us….
Honesty IS the answer…

and getting out, sharing it with a room filled of strangers, friends and fellow quirky queer, gender & poly mashed up bodies. That was Awesome!

Thank You all who came and paid, understanding these things cost, and our stories might not be free all the time. Thank You all who Took Part. and Mega Thank YOU to Sunny Drake for your moving performance and Multi Media show. And a mega mega THANK YOU to the tech team, who worked the whole day to set up, sort out and then with a mega hour of concentration produced a seamless flowing show! Thank YOU Jo & Liam! You did brilliant last night!
IMG_7634-th IMG_7673-thAlso mega thank you to our Fab Ragina Lumpitwat for such powerful dancing, Flying in green light at a spooky and Halloween filled RVT. Brilliant!

Thank You to Maria who lead and encouraged the community news plus was the sunshine at the door, and thank you to Miss Cairo Mascara for your thank you to us. Bar Wotever and Wotever World. We are touched and moved that you enjoy what we do and create, so your thanks goes a long way sweetie.

IMG_7517-thAnd thank you AbsolutQueer Photography for a mega quick turn around of fab pics from last night.
And my last thank you is to all of you who came up and shared your music last night. The dancefloor rocked with a mega creative mix, made by all of you! So, Thank You!

Ingo x