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Hand me Down

Wotever Stockholm Hand Me Down!

19th of October 20-01

1390552_10151929334837505_890093404_nThis month Wotever Stockholm has a vintage flair of the second hand variety!

Think thrifty as you swap in the new for the old. On your way to us tonight, perhaps stop in at your local charity or vintage shop for inspiration. Someone’s discarded bridesmaid dress can be your ballgown for the evening. And that 70’s disco suit certainly deserves another outing.
If formal wear is not your thing, there’s always plenty of sportwear, hats, and all those shoes!

Be unique, be second or third hand, be Wotever!

Performances tonight will have an equally eclectic flair, handing down thoughts, cares and stories with words, song and dance. Watch this space as we will be introducing our lovely performers soon!

Come and be entertained and stay for our DJs playing both the old and the new into the early hours of the night.

As always, Wotever Stockholm is entirely FREE, and has no dress code, and everyone is welcome!

Hot Rock Gets us Going

We sounded and looked so hot last night at Bar Wotever! Great evening with our all new sparkly house band, Battle of You, a group of talented and super sweet musicians. If it feels good. Do it!

Battle of You
Battle of You

They brought with them a great set up of music and words, the evening Rocked and we got the party feeling by all the balloons in the room. Around 3 000 balloons in blue, yellow and hot pink was hanging about…

Seth Corbin band played some of our favourite tunes and The Cut Outs Rocked the house down being super tight with great voices. Spoken word by Jake Hawkey gave us time for reflection to his words softly spoken. Having a room filled with rock lovers all quiet and listening to words about hard times and suffering is a skill, and Jake def had it. Plus the love stories…

All who was on stage at Bar Wotever last night.
All who was on stage at Bar Wotever last night.

The main attraction Battle of You came on and delivered a brilliant set, heavy on bass and super strong vocals. I’ve loved Mel’s voice ever since the first soundbite was sent to me as a ‘can we come and play’ request a few years back. I am so proud and happy that these talented musicians, great people have have chosen Bar Wotever as their new ‘home’ we will make this house Rock for sure!

Bar Wotever continue to be an exciting exploration of Community, Performance and Shared Longings and ideas.

One could classify it as any other regular pub night with some stuff happening on stage, and ‘I just popped in after work for a pint’ if one so wish, but the strength within Bar Wotever is so much more than that if one care to look. The collaboration and care taken of performers who come and start out, get a space to be themselves and grow is also happening on the floor, not only on stage, but as you could see last night if you were lucky enough to be there and witness it, it was a true schoolbook example of how we need to take care of each other, support one and other and our talent and skills.. The band, Battle of You, contacted me, Ingo curator and director of Bar Wotever back in 2011. They were still at Uni, looking for gigs of their new band, two female friends, with strong vocals and a sound cloud link. I booked them, and they came and played their third ever live gig at Bar Wotever. Since then I have followed them, and they have been back and played with us many more times, plus all around UK and London… they have established themselves, found back up musicians they seem to gel with, they are tight, smart and with great tunes. Last night they entered the stage, with a night they had put together, they entered the stage at Bar Wotevers home, Royal Vauxhall Tavern, as our first ever Residential band.  We have seen them grow and we have been there… Bar Wotever look after the LGBT & Queer artists we work with and who want/need it..

Party Debris after a Great Night
Party Debris after a Great Night

Living in this fast flowing world, it is easy to think, just as ‘coming out’ is the end of one drama, you are now ready and free to be and live as you want, one forget that you keep on growing, and we who have gone beforehand, found our spaces need to give back, share our knowledge and skills with others. So, Bar Wotever keep the community spirit going and are open, not only for new fresh ones, but also encourage all of us who have been around for a bit, to join in, share, learn and keep on growing…

So, see you a Tuesday down at Bar Wotever, a true unique event in the London Queer Calendar.



Porn Made Easy

Many know that I really like to film, shoot videos and/or create films.
Over many years I have had the fortune to work and be part of many creative scenarios where we have been able to shoot what we want, without anyone telling us what it should look like. Our bodies are beautiful, our expressions whilst being in sexual situations is powerful, sensitive and encouraging….
2009_0508klubfukk010025I  started to do these films at klub fukk, as a creative way of being able to show ‘our kind of queer sexuality‘ on the big mega plasma screen in the venue…. then we showed the films there, and sometimes in other sexy situations, amongst other queer sexy spaces. The aim for these films have never been to share them wider than amongst the people who are in them, with people who go to the same events & clubs as the participants…
Over the years I have been asked to create more and more films with people who are interested, want to be in front of the camera, be part of the set up, showing off, sharing their stories and fantasies… and always with the knowledge that if not ok with the film, it will be deleted and never ever shown anywhere. So far, I have done this for five years, and never ever have anyone seen them self in a sexual situation on film, in front of my camera, and thought they were wrong, their body awkward, to big, to ugly… Everyone can se their own beauty and I know know as well, that seeing oneself in a loving situation, being in charge, lust-filled, horny, eager and powerful whatever part one have in the sexy scenario we shoot, empower people. Make them feel stronger, more beautiful and powerful!
These films started as sexpositive queer ditties, but are more and more becoming films of power, how to own our own body, being object on our own terms for our own people…
This is What I do and feel very proud of.
I am doing Workshops and Travel to shoot these films nowadays.
You can book a full day Workshop for your group, with or with out filming or screening of a mini film festival (all those films have special license from the participants to be shown by me at my events). So let me know if you are interested in being part, make this move forward, become a tool more people can feel good about…To book me, Ingo. Please, email. woteverworld [at] gmail [dot] com
And yes, we still call it Porn, as it is a bout sex, sexual encounters between consenting adults. Porn as We Want It!
In the meantime, Im doing one workshop/taster in Stockholm during Wish Conference..
Saturday 28 September
10:30 am-12:00 pm Porn made Easy
Description: What porn do we want? What porn would we like to do? Missing out stuff you find hot, funny, sexy, smart and juicy with in the pornfilms you see? This lighthearted, funny and fabulous workshop is all about creating the porn we want and deserve. With bodies like ours and set ups we recognise and desire..
We create scenarios, film it and look at it. 
After the workshop films will be destroyed if you so wish…. or, kept and shared at WISH and/or SWEAT (Ingo’s sexclub in London). They will ONLY be shown at these places! 
Later in the evening during the conference there will be a Film Festival with selected films (all ok’d by participants) will be screened.
More about the event and how to book HERE




Creme de la Femme

Wotever Stockholm proudly presents Crème de la Femme.

Wotever StockholmTonight we celebrate all things femme-inine and all those who appreciate femme in all its queer forms.
High femme, biker femme, super femme, butch femme, femme butch, femme femme, Wotever femme!

Tonight we cherish the sense of power given by a pair of stiletto heels and black leather boots a like, the self-esteem both a winged eye-liner and dark blue lipstick can bring forth and the notion that femme is radical, queer and kick ass!

We believe that femme comes in infinite varieties and forms and has no dress code.

Femmes of all identities, genders and sexualities are welcome and so is EVERYONE else!

On stage we welcome the fantabulous Alexander Alvina Chamberland, the delectable Max Zachs and our very own Wotever co-organiser Christine Bylund. Whilst our DJs will keep you moving and grooving til the early hours!

Wotever is an open queer space for anyone and everyone no matter how they identify, so long as they respect everyone else’s right to be there. You are encouraged to dress up, down and sideways and come as you are or want to be – but there is no dress code and no entry cost!

Friday 27 September, 20 – 01

Bonden Bar, Bondegatan 1c, Stockholm

FREE Entry

last Friday, it rained in London….

And for us, Friday Night was Party Night, Everything and Everyone was ready.

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And as always, mega thanks to current crew, Jo, Serena, Dr J, Maria, Neil, Jo G, Theresa, Puja and Sarah

And the show, what a show! Thank you as always, Duncan D’Nut and Mzz Kimberly. DJs, Hug the DJ & Westlake

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Stav Bee snapped a lot of lovely pictures of the night and here you can see some. We also have a PhotoAlbum from All our FMAS events  HERE with plenty of fab pics from all our happy snappers!

Days after the event, people wrote lovely stuff and this is what Stav Bee wrote on FaceBook, I asked if I could share and she said yes, so here it is:

‘so, 10 years ago, the news spread about some club night, where anything would go and with anyone; it came with the name Wotever and despite my anal loathing on bad spelling, i have come to understand it, accept it and respect it. it started in a basement off marchmont street, around the corner from gay’s the word, where ingo was managing at that time. it was dark and suggestive and as i walked down its stairs with two of my friends, ingo immediately told me off: ‘what time do you call this? you are late…”! ha! and the journey begun to continue after all the trials and tribulations and spaces and places and festivals and ups and downs and travels and losses and attacks and loves to what we know Wotever World is to be to this day… and last night, we celebrated exactly that his/her story, along with the ever fun FMAS (female masculinity appreciation society) part five. we wore our papillons and ties and top hats and we danced and cheered and mingled and remembered and chatted and witnessed great shows, despite the pouring rain and the change of weather to golden and promising autumn… 

it was great to see my family looking beautiful and happy. 
so, we continue, yes? weekly and bi monthly in one of the most beautiful and oldest building, carrying a great gay his/ herstory, down in the area of vauxhall. the royal tavern. peace and love and a lot of cabaret, my friends. x’

And my reply: ‘Awh, it’s sooo amazing, that A, we are still here to meet up & share the love and idea of Wotever, and B, London let us! So MUCH LOVE!!! And cheers for all these years, ALL of you who came out last night! You Are Wotever! X’

//Ingo x

From Water Melons, via Silver to Queer Fayre

A very long time ago, I was one of those Swedish young people who were Island hopping around in the Greek Archipelago a summer… I went with a friend and none of us had a lot of money to start off with, so to be able to stay a bit longer we took on odd jobs for cash, lodging and/or food. In Athens we painted a hotel, I brought & sold WaterMelons on the beaches, on Paros, we helped with cleaning the campsite toilets. I had also brought my silver stuff and macrame threads, so I was also selling ear rings and bracelets on the streets. We were travelling around on the Islands, Mykonos, Thira  and Naxos made it both, a beach holidays as well as a craft market, and we were selling our stuff to fellow tourists.

Making things, being proud of what you made is a really cool ground for QUEER FAYRE and what we stand for. Here people can sell stuff they have created with their own hands, a bit of imagination and spare time…. Selling what you’ve made to people who will send it further, give it as presents or just enjoy it themselves is so much FUN!

QF01 QF02 watermelonQueer Fayre also have stalls with food items, home baked cakes and cookies…. these come in all sort of flavours and you can buy and eat there and then, but also what many do – they buy cakes for later tea parties or dinners…. Once I had a couple coming who were over the moon that there were Swedish Chocolate Balls (Chokladbollar) and Dream Cookies (drömmar) for sale as they had just been in Sweden, tasted these there and fallen in love with the tastes. They cleaned me up so to speak…

If making stuff or eating isn’t your thing…. Maybe rummage through vintage clothing, books, music and things are more to your liking…. Queer Fayre always have a few stalls filled with what can only be described as ‘Car-Boot-Sale’ Second hand stuff… People clean out their closet, bring and sell. We have had people selling off full BDSM wardrobes incl toys, vinyl records, cabaret outfits as well as vintage toy collections and plenty of clothes & shoes.

Queer Fayre is a Day out and a chance to revisit loved crafts, skilfully  created cakes and cards. It is Daytime and it is a cafe for queers. Queer Fayre is at RVT, indoors and very FUN!

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Come. Shop. Share. Sell. Support. Enjoy.

Wotever Cabaret Icon Photo

Time Flies when you are having fun…

This picture was taken as a promo pic. We were asked to take Club Wotever and our Wotever Cabaret on tour. We had gigs in Warsaw and Stockholm coming up and we also had a show at Hackney Empire planned…

The set up was easy, I just called the venue where we had started Club Wotever, a venue called Bar-B-Lo, and asked if we could come in and shoot against their brick wall.

Photographer Sam Nightingale, who also was part of the original crew took the picture. We were all in our performance character, showing who we were via costume and attitude. Jacq, the Fabulous Drag King Trevor 4 Ever, one of the absolute funniest people I ever met. Seriously, Jacq have such a big heart and always made it easy with plenty of humour and easy going attitude. She brought tons of skills from touring and performing in Melbourne. Me, Ingo in the middle. I am my alter ego Red Viking, a Drag King with political pathos and somewhat boxer instincts (Red Vikings story later became part of the show & film The Lovers & Fighters convention), To the right, Lazlo, Lazlo Pearlman, the showman and performer extraordinary, he did his Gender Magician and travelled around with a big box. .

Sitting you see Josephine, the lovely Josephine Krieg (was Wilson) Matrix Calm, Dancer and Accademic – she brought style and diplomacy to the group and her talent as a performer have only grown over the years.  Maria, DykeMarilyn, the brain child of Jimi Hendrix and Marilyn Monroe, she performed with such a style and such class.

Picture is from 2004.

promo pic for Wotever Cabaret
promo pic for Wotever Cabaret
















The Picture was also picked up and used in Metro, Warsaw when we went there an ddid a show. This is us, Front Page.

We are in Warsaw Metro
We are in Warsaw Metro



Queer Fayre: Harvest

Welcome to another QUEER FAYRE

After a long and vibrant summer, we will reap what we’ve done. Sell what we no longer need, and share our crafty skills. All Sellers are highly amazing! You will find things you had no idea you need here!
There might be a BBQ, and there DEf will be FIKA. We are spreading the Swedish way of getting a coffee, mix it with some cake and plenty of chatting…

+ RVT keep the bar open for your refreshment needs

Saturday 21 September

Doors 2-6

Entry £2

Royal Vauxhall Tavern, 372 Kennington Lane, SE11 5HY London

All welcome!

Want to BOOK a Table?
Get it Now, via this link:Stalls only £10
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What is Family?

It can be many things, people we are related to , people we love, and people we chose. One of many definitions google gives us are: ‘Two or more people who share goals and values, have long-term commitments to one another, and reside usually in the same dwelling place.’

I think WE are Family.

Wotever have during the years become somewhat of a very  chaotic family, where cousins & siblings come and go, where we get visits by distant relatives from afar now and then,  and we keep in touch via emails, reading each others tweets and status updates on FaceBook.. Recognise ourselves and others by the videos and photos we share widely. See the resemblance in our looks and oooh and aaaah over how utterly Different we are, yet the same. It’s something about the eyes…and the hearts. There is def a Family resemblance between us all.

We support each other to learn new things, educate ourselves if so within art, performance, music or biology, we share meals together and we are there when the depression gets us down,  and our bodies are not so able,  and, together we def stay stronger…

Who is what within our Family is up to each and everyone of us to decide as generations meet, connect and roles vary and change. Together we grow up. We swap ideas and hugs on a frequent basis, and we share joyous moments as well as sad ones with each other. Not everyone know each other by name – but we are connected! Over borders, distance and TIME. And this Family is always open for new members, people we pick up, meet and who wanna be part… This is NOT a clique, we all come from various strands of stories and backgrounds…. we simply chose this. At the moment. For awhile. Just NOW! And some of us stay longer… It’s Family

Wotever Family!

Wotever Family
Wotever Family

This portrait was taken the other week by Sara Davidmann. She had asked me to be part of a book re Trans & Relations and I had this idea of taking a pic with me and some others with our tops off as in saying, our body is not our gender and I wanted this to be with friends and people I know… The idea to snap it on stage one Tuesday during Wotever Sex came up and we did set it up. I thought, why not take a Family portrait, with clothes on, as well when we can. So, on the evening 20th August 2013 I invited everyone that was there at RVT to join me IF they wanted, I said, If you like what Wotever stand for, If you feel part of Wotever, if you want to be in this Wotever Family portrait – you are welcome to be part. And people came to the stage. So many! We filled it and I think there are many people we can not see in the picture, as this was overwhelming… Pretty much EVERYONE came up and wanted to be in our photo. As, we ARE Family!

And yes, we snapped the half dressed pics too, but that you will see in the book when that is out. I just want to say a MASSIVE thank YOU to all of you who took part of that shoot. You all look amazing!

with Love & Respect, //Ingo x